Today, I want to address a pressing issue that weighs heavily on many hearts: the myths surrounding divorce, toxic marriages, and Christianity. For those of you familiar with my Youtube channel, you know my passion lies in helping women experience freedom through divorce, particularly those trapped in abusive, toxic relationships.
Let’s dispel one of the biggest myths keeping people in harmful marriages: the belief that staying “for the children” is always the better option.
Toxicity vs. A Broken Home
A few days ago, I came across a quote: “Toxic people are those who won’t treat you right but also won’t let you go.” This speaks volumes about what many endure in toxic marriages—constant mistreatment combined with an unwillingness from their spouse to release them. Such relationships are the epitome of unauthorized marriages, where one partner remains stuck in cycles of abuse.
The first myth I want to tackle is the notion that children are irreparably harmed by coming from a “broken home.” Many believe that remaining in a toxic marriage preserves stability for their kids. However, studies reveal a stark truth: the negative effects on children living in toxic households often mirror or even exceed those experienced by children of divorced parents.
Children in homes rife with emotional, verbal, or physical abuse suffer deeply. These toxic environments teach them unhealthy relationship dynamics and diminish their sense of security and well-being. Staying in such a marriage doesn't shield them—it perpetuates the cycle of dysfunction.
Kingdom Perspective
As Christians, we belong to a kingdom governed by different principles than the world’s. Fear-based statistics about children from “broken homes” are rooted in the world’s perspective, but we operate under God’s sovereignty. When we trust Him, we can raise our children with love, strength, and resilience, despite the challenges of divorce.
Even secular studies show that children thrive when at least one parent provides a nurturing, stable environment—something nearly impossible to achieve within the chaos of a toxic marriage.
Choosing Freedom
Breaking free from a toxic marriage isn’t about giving up; it’s about embracing God’s design for abundant life. If you’re staying “for the children,” remember this: you can model courage, faith, and God’s love by showing them what it means to break unhealthy cycles and choose a path of healing.
God didn’t call us to endure abuse or toxicity. He called us to live in freedom, peace, and wholeness. Don’t let myths and fear keep you bound.
Join the conversation in the comments below. What myths have you encountered, and how have you navigated them? Let’s build a community that uplifts and supports each other through these journeys of faith and freedom.
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